Being a new mom should be all sunshine and roses, right? I mean, how can my newborn cause me so much stress? Something is wrong with me. No, you are among millions of women who feel this way. You just gave birth so that shows you are strong. There is a ton of support out there for new moms. You just have to take the first step and reach out. Reaching out for help isn’t a sign of weakness at all, in fact, it’s a sign of strength.

2Make a Parental Plan:

There are many things that you need to discuss with your spouse or figure out (if you’re a single parent: I am referring to you as well. I would not leave you out.) You need to decide things like visitors for the first couple of weeks. Who will get up with the baby at night? How do you deal with the age old question; do you let the baby cry it out or not? Get a journal and write it down. Having a plan in advance will help take the stress out of decision making in the moment.

Don’t Make Any Plans That are High Energy:

You just had a baby, it takes a lot out of you. You need to figure out the feeding schedule and a whole host of other things. It certainly doesn’t mix well when you don’t say no to things that are high energy. It will cause tension and your baby will feel you stressing out.

Stay Flexible for You: The first year is huge and requires a big part of your life to adapt to a new baby being there. Babies teach you to multi task but don’t over do it. You need you time as well. Stay flexible in your new life and make sure to leave time for you.

Make Freezer Meals Ahead of Time:

Have you ever wondered how some parents have time to make meals, like all the time? It’s called freezer meals! Especially in the beginning, enlist your best friend, mom or someone you are close with. Take a couple Saturdays a month and make freezer meals. You can make all sorts of things like lasagna, chicken alfredo and a whole host of other meals that you pop into the oven and it takes no time at all.

Try Not to Compare Yourself to Other Parents:

You are you and you are wonderful. You see all the other parents and they look so put together. Believe me, things are not always as they seem. There are times that even those put together parents are stressing out. Trust me, it’s happening. Just not in front of you.

Written by Cleo Neufeld

Cleo Neufeld

Before meeting the love of her life, Cleo was a single mother to a beautiful little girl for many years. She shares her expertise in single parenting, building a relationship, living on a budget and more.